reply to: "19 Things To Stop Doing In Your 20s"

There is some really good stuff in here:

5. Stop allowing yourself to be so comfortable all the time. Coming up with a list of reasons to procrastinate risky, innovative decisions offers more short-term gratification than not procrastinating. But when you stop procrastinating to make a drastic change, your list of reasons to procrastinate becomes a list of ideas about how to better navigate the risk you’re taking.

I have been incredibly fortunate in life and have had much opportunity and many comforts readily available. It is easy for me to be comfortable but the risk to lose a regularity of comfort comes with the the benefit a rich, diverse and more intensely lived life.

7. Stop expecting people to be better than they were in high school — learn how to deal with it instead

When I was a kid I thought adults were special. at some point I realized that adults are not necessarily special, but as an adult you can choose not to be like a child - or not.

11. Stop ignoring the fact that other people have unique perspectives and positions. Start approaching people more thoughtfully. People will appreciate you for deliberately trying to conceive their own perspective and position in the world. It not only creates a basis for empathy and respect, it also primes people to be more open and generous with you.

This is powerful and relevant to some of the reading and thinking I've been doing about sexism, racism and classism - but obviously is not limited to perspectives of people commonly affected by those issues.

14. Stop rejecting the potential to feel pain.
15. Stop approaching adverse situations with anger and frustration.

I definitely identify with these two as I've been trying to grow over the past year or so. Once again, it is easy to live comfortably - even to the point of avoiding the potential for pain - but the risk is worth it. Life will be brighter.